Every man gets a little frightened at the concept of being a father. What with all the talk about losing space and being the third wheel in that family, it is almost impossible to cringe at the thought. Good thing, however, is that this may not be necessarily true. You may have to rearrange your priorities and even magically create some free time out of your busy schedule, but nothing beats the joy of knowing that you have a new life in your hands, and you are responsible for its existence. Here are some common things you will hear about being a new dad, and the truth about how it actually feels:
YOUR LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME
Fortunately, or unfortunately (it all really depends on how you look at it), this is true. Two become three, and there is no reversing the process. Everything starts working differently to accommodate your baby. You have to devote more time to family, earn more to support them, give more love and generally be more committed in literally every aspect you can imagine. You are no longer the only ‘Baby’; an actual baby is demanding your attention.
ALL ATTENTION GOES TO THE LATEST ADDITION IN THE FAMILY
If you are used to being the center of attention in your family, you may find it hard to accept this. From the moment your partner declares herself pregnant, you are no longer in the spotlight. First, your wife will be the one needing your attention until birth where the baby will come first. You will need to support her in numerous ways and prepare for your little ones arrival with baby bassinets, nappy bags, prams and everything else.
It is not unusual for men to feel like the third wheel, but you really don’t have to feel this way. Involve yourself actively in the care of both baby and mother, and start making some family memories.
THERE IS NO MORE ‘ME TIME.’
Well, not necessarily. You may not really have as much time to yourself as you did before, but you can make some.
Your baby will need the attention of both you and the mother. Your wife may not be up to doing hard tasks especially after the delivery which means that you will need to step in. You will need to help out with the chores as well as in taking care of the baby while also juggling all these with your job. And... you will be expected to get baby toys, ride on toys, and countless other things which might not make sense to you.
If you get paternity leave, then the better. At times like these, getting a house help wouldn’t be such a bad idea.
THE RESPONSIBILITY ONLY KEEPS GROWING
This is probably why many people view parenthood as a burden. They choose to look at the part where you are responsible for everything as far as the baby (and his mum) is concerned. While this is true, there is also much joy in the process. Do your best to give them a good life while also enjoying yours.
Conclusively, being a father is a gift. Getting the chance to raise your baby to become the best person they could be, it will bring you some lifetime satisfaction. All you need to do is take each day as it comes and find joy in the process. For some adorable apparel online, check out Bubs Warehouse.
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